Do if Your Christmas is Blue
By Indigo Blue
Holidays are a joyous time of celebration for many
of us. For others, these same times are painful and
lonely. Expectations are high during this time,
and many feel the pressure to do, and go and give
beyond their abilities. Mental health experts agree
that depression levels increase and one may
experience anything from a mild case of the blues to a
full-blown major depressive episode. Those already
clinically depressed can sink to dangerous lows.
Tis the season to be jolly, indeed, but it is also the
season to take care of your emotional well-being. Here are some simple things to do if your Christmas is
Simplify Your Life. It's easy to get caught up in the
busyness the holidays bring. It's important to
prioritize what is important to you, what is
essential, and what someone else can do or help you
with. It's also a good idea to try to streamline your
activities. Make an effort to work smart, not hard.
Express your feelings. Talk to trusted friends and
family members. Your feelings, no matter what they
are, are important. Get them out. Journaling and
creative outlets, such as crafts, or poetry can offer
a great deal of relief, also. These kind of creative
outlets often allow us to express what we will not
allow our words to..
Understand that some of your feelings may mask other
feelings. You may feel irritable, but that
irritability may be covering some unresolved grief,
especially if you have experienced a significant loss. Again, talk to people you trust.
You may even want to
seek professional assistance to help you sort things
out. There is absolutely no shame in that.
Don't put pressure on yourself to get over it. Just
because you are bombarded with messages that urge you
to have yourself a merry little Christmas, you just
may not be feeling it. Take your time. Baby steps
may be the way you get through the season.
Be proactive. Don't wait until your feelings
completely overwhelm you before you seek out some
support. You may be experiencing clinical depression,
and be in need of medication. If the holidays are a
sensitive time for you, try to think ahead and have a
plan before you have a crisis.
Take care of your body. You may need to pass on the
holiday cheer in favor of non-alcoholic drinks. Non-alcoholic doesn't necessarily mean good for you.
Sugary drinks full of caffeine can also be mood
altering substances that affect your feelings. Drink
plenty of water and juice, fresh if possible. Herbal
teas can be wonderful. Exercise. Make sure you are
getting enough sleep. And if you can, pamper your
body with extras like aromatherapy, massage, or a
Finally, feed your spirit. Pray, and serve others. Get involved with your community.
Gather in spiritual
places and read affirming, comforting, or holy books. Connect with others.
Isolating yourself puts you at
risk for more painful experiences.
Whatever your circumstances, the holidays do not have
to be traumatic. Be your own Santa Claus, and give
the gift of kindness and care to yourself. Your
self-nurturing will not only make a difference to you,
but to those whose lives you touch. If you can't have
a happy holiday, at least have a healing one.