Jungle
Boy
by Diane MacKenzie
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My son often calls himself a "Jungle Boy.' Jungle
Boy is a name that he created to describe the experience of mania. He is
ten years old and has Bipolar Disorder. When mania sets in, Jungle Boy
has come to town. We are never certain, as to exactly how long he will
stay. There are warning signs…signs of his imminent arrival. He will
start to growl and hiss and scratch at those unfortunate people within
his reach. The house becomes a cage and he paces back and forth, between
its walls, like a trapped animal. The tension level starts to rise and
we can all feel the static in the air around us. My husband swears that
he has come in from work and, felt the electricity in the air, as soon
as he turned onto our street. It is a tangible energy. Video games and
television hold no interest for Jungle Boy. Sleep eludes him and as a
result, his primal instincts take over, to an even greater degree.
Slights are perceived as attacks and any sudden movement is an affront
to him. He instigates fights with whoever might be available, at the
time. Jungle Boy will not be ignored. He will not be contained. We have
had to learn to live with his unpredictable arrivals and sometimes
bizarre behaviors. Teaching and reaching this Jungle Boy is the most
challenging aspect of my life.
Mania in children is somewhat different than mania in
adults. Manic adults are often euphoric and filled with boundless
energy. They become can become social to the point of promiscuity and
often wreak havoc on their own financial affairs. Self-absorbed to the
nth degree, they appear to think of no one but themselves. A mild manic
episode can produce bursts of creativity that rival those of prolific
novelists. Children present a slightly different picture. Different
enough, in fact, that they are often misdiagnosed and receive improper
treatment for years. Manic children are often irritable and extremely
aggressive. Jungle Boy has been known to stick a leg out and trip his
three-year-old sister for no apparent reason. It is as if his limbs and
body have a mind of their own. Sometimes, he seems to lose his ability
to communicate and resorts to physical retaliations over nothing at all.
Other times, it seems as though he simply cannot control his impulse to
cause pain to an unsuspecting person. Mania tends to bring with it
sexual precociousness. It is during these phases that he speaks of it
frequently and attempts to touch others inappropriately. He has made
more than a few people uncomfortable with his attempts to act out and
his outspoken statements regarding the matter. For years I believed that
he might have been sexually abused. Looking back over incidents now, I
have come to realize that he has been that way, virtually from birth. He
began to exhibit these behaviors at the age of three, just before the
birth of his little sister. More than likely, the jealousy and
discomfort surrounding this major life change, precipitated the
behaviors. No matter the cause, it is by far the most disturbing of the
symptoms. Laughter is something that I long to hear from children. It
can be infectious to see a child giggle when something tickles their
funny bone. The laughter of mania is not quite the same. It almost seems
to be unnatural. Eerie might be a more apt description. This is the kind
of laughter that comes at the wrong time. When Jungle Boy is being
reprimanded for something particularly serious, he will often start to
titter nervously only to have it erupt into a full-blown giggle fit. I
have compared it to cartoonish depictions of hyenas. There is an
underlying malicious edge to it. The need for sleep becomes virtually
non-existent. A sleeplessness night greatly increases the chances of a
manic episode. With Jungle Boy, mania seems to be at the farthest end of
the mood spectrum, after a sleepless night. Mania also produces
risk-taking behavior. Jungle Boy attained legendary status in our
neighborhood when he refused to get on the school bus one morning,
during his second grade year of school. He fully intended to ride his
bike down a very busy highway, through morning rush hour traffic.
However, he only managed to get about a quarter of a mile down,
Mississippi Highway 51 before being picked up by a neighbor and returned
safely home. It is about six miles (including three major intersections)
from our home to the school. A manic child will frequently meet most of
the criteria for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Inattention,
extreme hyperactivity, lack of impulse control, fidgeting with hands and
feet, and talkativeness can be symptomatic of a manic episode. It is
believed that hyperactivity is often mistaken for childhood mania.
Recent research has shown that bipolar disorder and Attention Deficit
Hyperactivity Disorder occur together frequently. Jungle Boy was
diagnosed with ADHD during a thirteen-day hospital stay, when he was
three years old. Night terrors are sometimes used as a means to
differentiate one disorder from the other. Jungle Boy often screams out
in his sleep and runs through the house looking for me. He once went out
the front door at 2:00 in the morning. When my husband caught him at the
bottom of the steps, he was unable to waken him and only managed to turn
him around and steer him back into the house. Once Jungle Boy was safely
inside, he looked at me and began to scream. He screamed the
"horror movie scream queen." I thought that I had frightened
him and tried to apologize. It was only then, that I realized that he
was seeing something, that was not me. He was still asleep. After
placing a cool rag on his face, he slowly wakened and had little memory
of what had previously happened. His dreams contain graphic content.
Blood, gore and dismemberment are common themes. It is believed that
this phenomena is almost exclusive to children with bipolar disorder.
Jungle Boy is always manic or becoming increasingly so when these dreams
invade his sleep.
Grandiosity is the most maddening of the symptoms.
During a manic phase, Jungle Boy often thinks he is ten-feet tall and
bulletproof. He has sucked me into a quicksand pit of power struggle
more than once by acting as though he is my equal. The most frustrating,
nerve-wracking part of it all, is that I know he truly believes it. It
is during these times that he shows blatant disrespect for any
authority. Jungle Boy is foul-mouthed and insolent. He has no qualms
about using profanity in my presence or the presence of others for that
matter. He is a bully that picks on smaller children without seeming to
care…he seems to do everything and anything without a hint of remorse.
It is then that I am scared for Jungle Boy. It is then that I must be at
my strongest so that I can stand up to him and show him the right way to
go. It is these times that tire me out, past the point of exhaustion
into a kind of mental restoration zone. For a while, I must let someone
else take over my responsibilities. It is then that I become so weary
that my vision blurs and I cannot determine if I am speaking to my son
or to my other son, Jungle Boy.
Mania in children can seem to be as wild and untamed
as the jungle. The experience affects the child, the family and
sometimes, even innocent bystanders. The next time you see a child
yelling uncontrollably in a store or hitting their mother at the gas
station…think before offering well-intentioned advice. That advice
often serves to exacerbate the situation and eventually makes it harder
on both mother and child. If they are speaking in measured tones and
seem to be in control, move along or better yet out of the kindness of
your heart quietly ask if everything is all right. If they respond with
a yes, move along, don't stare and try to remember the story of the
Jungle Boy.

About Diane
I am a poet by nature and a writer at heart....29yo
mother of three born in Memphis, TN on Halloween. I love to
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