I would like to
tell you a love story. I met my husband 4 years ago.
He was taking care of his Bipolar schizoaffective disorder.
We met purely by Godís hand. He was an armed security guard at
the teacherís credit union.
I was divorced from an abusive man with schizoaffective disorder
which I found out five years later after I married him (he was
in denial). I stayed with my ex-husband for 9 years and
tried to get him help. If I had stayed, I probably would
not be here.
I met my husband when his motherís car had radiator problems.
I just happened to go a different way back home. We talked and
later we dated.
After a year he told me that he heard voices. That
scared me because I lived with a lunatic for 9 years. Well
he had asked me to marry him and I agreed only if my minister
would marriage counsel us. My husband agreed and he told
our minister the problem and suggested his doctor.
My minister was on
Prozac for depression. He went to Garry Penny who is a
wonderful Pdoctor who teaches at the university and is a
My husband is ex-drug addict
(cocaine). In fact he ended in rehab and they knew
something was wrong and wanted to keep him free of charge 2
weeks more. At that time period he was afraid that he
would be committed in the mental ward (this happened before I
His mother and father divorced
and he lived with her for over 30 years. When he was
younger he asked his mother if it was normal to hear voices and
she said yes. His father never knew until we married that
he was Bipolar. Finally, after 3 years Gary his doctor has found
the magic meds that work (Geodon and Lithobid).
During the period before we
were married mother W. decided to take a mental vacation off of
her meds. She had a hard time letting go of her son
and not him letting go of her. My husband for many years
took care of her and committed her a few times (several of her
mental vacations). I couldnít believe that she was doing
this before our wedding. I couldnít believe that two Bipolars
were taking care of each other for that many years.
My husband is the kindest and
warmest creature on earth. My mother knows that my mother-in-law
has problems but doesnít know about my husband. I think
better for her not to know for now.
During that period
when he was not on medication he tired to commit suicide and cut
himself with a can-opener. After he was older, pure
strength on his will and now he controlled his problem.
He now is doing
wonderful and is a wonderful husband. I just thought you would
like to her his story. There are probably more things that
he has not told me.
I received my
masters degree in music education and research. I hope that this
story is not boring to you.